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Topic Started: Apr 22 2007, 05:27 PM (1,993 Views)
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I really like someone but he lives like, thousands of miles away! :(

Aww I've had that too. It really sucks. It's worrying because I didn't want to get involved in any long term thing, but on the other hand you can't help thinking 'what of this is the person i'm meant to be with??'


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I'm really annoyed and I don't know why. Sometimes sadness comes out as frustration with me. I just feel all knotted up inside like i want to scream or run somewhere or break something. I've felt this way for a few days now. I'm so so so tired or everything again. I'm finding it hard to get out of bed again. I don't know whether to cry or throw something. And then I get irritable when i feel this way and end up snapping at people and thinking bad thoughts about people.

I don't even feel like I can talk about this stuff on LJ now because I get the feeling people are sick of reading about it. Maybe I could just make my entries private...


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I'm not really much of a Darren fan anymore. I just like to casually hear his music play on WMP shuffle. Sadly i don't have the urge to just listen to him the whole time.

The only reason why i'm still on this forum, is to keep in touch you with you guys outside of MSN, Myspace and Livejournal.

I still like him, but i'm not a fan much. Mostly because i'm not given a reason to be a fan. I'll be impressed when D comes to Seattle for the first time literally years.

Until them, i'm not even gonna give him a single piece of my hope that he will come.

I'm just not obsessed enough to collect things on him or want to hear those B sides songs. If i hear the new songs fine, really though i don't care if i do.

I have to be one the worse D fans now. Technically, i just want to like him, i don't want him to be my favorite singer.

most of you probably don't understand because your die hard fan, collect and want to know everything he does.

Eh, i don't care to know that. I'm just here for you guys now because this in one the only places where you guys will have any reason to talk to me.

If it wasn't for this community, you guys wouldn't say much to me on your own.

It's okay to kick me out of your clique. Most Darren fans do if another fan doesn't like him anymore. Sadly it's natural to forget a past fan even though they were your 'friend' and always talked.

Yeah so, if any of you have to do with me anymore, thanks, if not, well, God bless you.

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I'm not really much of a Darren fan anymore. I just like to casually hear his music play on WMP shuffle.  Sadly i don't have the urge to just listen to him the whole time.

The only reason why i'm still on this forum, is to keep in touch you with you guys outside of MSN, Myspace and Livejournal.

I still like him, but i'm not a fan much. Mostly because i'm not given a reason to be a fan. I'll be impressed when D comes to Seattle for the first time literally years.

Until them, i'm not even gonna give him a single piece of my hope that he will come.

I'm just not obsessed enough to collect things on him or want to hear those B sides songs.  If i hear the new songs fine, really though i don't care if i do.

I have to be one the worse D fans now. Technically, i just want to like him, i don't want him to be my favorite singer.

most of you probably don't understand because your die hard fan, collect and want to know everything he does.

Eh, i don't care to know that. I'm just here for you guys now because this in one the only places where you guys will have any reason to talk to me.

If it wasn't for this community, you guys wouldn't say much to me on your own.

It's okay to kick me out of your clique. Most Darren fans do if another fan doesn't like him anymore. Sadly it's natural to forget a past fan even though they were your 'friend' and always talked.

Yeah so, if any of you have to do with me anymore, thanks, if not, well, God bless you.

I see this happen alot. Unrealistic expectations from 'fans'. If you're not a fan anymore just because of something as silly as what you mentioned, I don't think you ever were in the first place. And in case you haven't noticed, we all DO have lives and we just can't keep in touch all of the time.

Whether you see it or not, we're all a very loving community and we embrace ALL FANS with open arms. But you don't seem to be acting like one at all. You're not being fair to D or us.

But you know what? I don't like being judged in this way. Knowing things and keeping up with news and collecting singles and whatever else doesn't make me a stalker. It just means I want to be as close to the music as possible. That's probably something you'll never understand, because your musical mindset seems to be stuck in the adolescent years. I'm not trying to judge you, but I don't like it when people make such crass generalizations about a group of people you don't really know at all.

I respect your decision however.

I guess you're just one of the ones that was never meant to get him.

Goodbye Melissa.

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Nov 13 2007, 10:24 PM
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I'm not really much of a Darren fan anymore. I just like to casually hear his music play on WMP shuffle.  Sadly i don't have the urge to just listen to him the whole time.

The only reason why i'm still on this forum, is to keep in touch you with you guys outside of MSN, Myspace and Livejournal.

I still like him, but i'm not a fan much. Mostly because i'm not given a reason to be a fan. I'll be impressed when D comes to Seattle for the first time literally years.

Until them, i'm not even gonna give him a single piece of my hope that he will come.

I'm just not obsessed enough to collect things on him or want to hear those B sides songs.  If i hear the new songs fine, really though i don't care if i do.

I have to be one the worse D fans now. Technically, i just want to like him, i don't want him to be my favorite singer.

most of you probably don't understand because your die hard fan, collect and want to know everything he does.

Eh, i don't care to know that. I'm just here for you guys now because this in one the only places where you guys will have any reason to talk to me.

If it wasn't for this community, you guys wouldn't say much to me on your own.

It's okay to kick me out of your clique. Most Darren fans do if another fan doesn't like him anymore. Sadly it's natural to forget a past fan even though they were your 'friend' and always talked.

Yeah so, if any of you have to do with me anymore, thanks, if not, well, God bless you.

I see this happen alot. Unrealistic expectations from 'fans'. If you're not a fan anymore just because of something as silly as what you mentioned, I don't think you ever were in the first place. And in case you haven't noticed, we all DO have lives and we just can't keep in touch all of the time.

Whether you see it or not, we're all a very loving community and we embrace ALL FANS with open arms. But you don't seem to be acting like one at all. You're not being fair to D or us.

But you know what? I don't like being judged in this way. Knowing things and keeping up with news and collecting singles and whatever else doesn't make me a stalker. It just means I want to be as close to the music as possible. That's probably something you'll never understand, because your musical mindset seems to be stuck in the adolescent years. I'm not trying to judge you, but I don't like it when people make such crass generalizations about a group of people you don't really know at all.

I respect your decision however.

I guess you're just one of the ones that was never meant to get him.

Goodbye Melissa.

xM

mhm. Well actually it's not unfair to you guys and D.

I'm a music lover who doesn't base all of her ideals on a single singer. Most D fans are very emotional when somebody says they are not a 'fan' anymore.

Im just saying that i don't want to just like him as is. I like to move on to other things in life that are more realistic.

It's a VERY sad thing that i have to be disliked by you guys just because i don't base my interest in music around him.

Seriously i should not have to be judged like this just because im not big fan.

Tell me how im being unfair to you guys. Just thought i would say something rather than just keeping it bundled up.


I don't see how i am. I just like to be friends with you guys. No reason for me to leave you just because you don't approve of me on here anymore. The reason i stated is not silly.


Yeah by the way, i wasn't saying goodbye. It was you who just pushed me aside because i don't agree with you the same. thats unfair to me. Maybe you should accept me the way i think. THATS unfair to me.


Am i just the only one who bases her life around other musical interests? I like him still, just i was never able to emotionally connect with his music. The same with every other artist to. Its funny how your acting like you have been on this site for weeks.

Just either love me the way i am or like most other D fans, just rebuke me. Its very pathetic that you have to judge me that way.

Just wish i could understand you guys. Maybe it's because of the lack of hope that i will ever see him personally after being fan for 10 years. I just like the music, i'm not in love with him like a lot of fans.

So really it's you who is not keeping an open mind along with other people. This site is just one of the only ways i can continue to keep in contact with you guys. If it wasn't for here, i don't know how many of you would message me on other sites.

I just don't like to come and go then be forgotten for a silly reason like not being certain kind of fan. that's just a little silly.

Hm.. i don't know what to do about you emotional fans. I live my daily life trying to enjoy and live through it. I dont need to keep in touch with bands that closely like most people do. I just wish i could have a reason to care about every band i like. Sadly i could never obsess about anything. I just like him. Please don't throw me to the dogs because of that. I wouldn't do that to you.





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I'm on this site because it's Steph's place. We had good times on Lainey's forum. I can't really say i'm a fan of Darren's either. (Although he is great)

in_infrared, I just wanted to let you know that I seem to feel like you do about liking a whole bunch of music and not focussing just on Darren. However, I really understand what it's like to love an artist in particular. I was like that with Savage Garden, I relied on their music.

I hardly know anyone in this place, but I've realized that everyone is understanding & accepting. Just trust in that. I don't think anyone would throw us out of here!!!! So let's not worry, yo!



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To be completely honest? I'm not as big a fan as I used to be. I like Darren's music. I like to see new pictures of him and read new articles. But there are many other bands now that I love way more than Darren. I've just found other songwriters whose words move me more than Darren's. I don't think it's a bad thing and I dont think it's anybody's fault. None of us here ever signed a contract to say we'd love Darren more than any other band or singer.

I would still love this forum and post here even if it was not a Darren Hayes forum. Because I love hanging out with you guys. I like you not because you're Darren fans but because you're fun people.

I don't think anybody really has the right to say how much somebody should love a singer. If you're a die hard fan that's awesome for you. It's also cool if you're just a casual listener. I don't see how it's a big deal either way.

I'm sorry melissa if you think this is a clique but it's really really not. If you don't want to read darren's news, just post in all the other forums.That's why we have those general forums, for people who still want to hang around here but don't want to talk about Darren. Nobody will be frozen out just because they're not a huge fan.


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I'm not really much of a Darren fan anymore. I just like to casually hear his music play on WMP shuffle. Sadly i don't have the urge to just listen to him the whole time.

The only reason why i'm still on this forum, is to keep in touch you with you guys outside of MSN, Myspace and Livejournal.

I still like him, but i'm not a fan much. Mostly because i'm not given a reason to be a fan. I'll be impressed when D comes to Seattle for the first time literally years.

Until them, i'm not even gonna give him a single piece of my hope that he will come.

I'm just not obsessed enough to collect things on him or want to hear those B sides songs. If i hear the new songs fine, really though i don't care if i do.

I have to be one the worse D fans now. Technically, i just want to like him, i don't want him to be my favorite singer.

most of you probably don't understand because your die hard fan, collect and want to know everything he does.

Eh, i don't care to know that. I'm just here for you guys now because this in one the only places where you guys will have any reason to talk to me.

If it wasn't for this community, you guys wouldn't say much to me on your own.

It's okay to kick me out of your clique. Most Darren fans do if another fan doesn't like him anymore. Sadly it's natural to forget a past fan even though they were your 'friend' and always talked.

Yeah so, if any of you have to do with me anymore, thanks, if not, well, God bless you.

Hun i could never kick you out of here. I totally respect your decision as I'm the same with Bsb.

Man i was nuts on them to say it bluntly but now I'm not that bothered on them, and have totally downsized all my stuff i own of them and i hardly visit their sites etc etc. It doesnt make us less, as hey we're all music lovers and we still sometimes listen to the arists music so dont feel bad. People grow out of things and grow into new things. Its normal.

Also hun i do enjoy talking to ya on msn, myspace etc. I'm just sorting things out over here and plus with our different time zones... <_< Eugh! Sometimes its not possible.

Will talk to ya soon hunny, when i can get and know i can get some time to myself on msn without any other distractions. As atm its hard for me to concerntrate on one thing @ once.
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Ah, you know, the issue of fandom is an interesting one, and a perenial bugbear for people.

No one should dictate what sort of fan you want to be. If you like Darren but that's all, then no problem. You're still a fan. Being a fan does not mean buying every release, hanging off his every word, and believing he can do no wrong. Being a fan means liking the music and listening to it occasionally. Of course, there are different extents of fandom, but it all comes down to the same thing.

Melissa, I think as much as anything you're a victim of this weird thing I've seen in this fandom. There are a certain segment of the fanbase who seem to revel in how they 'rebel' against the fan club and against the most popular part of the fanbase. They enjoy criticising Darren for pretty much everything he does, on the grounds that 'they see things how they are, not through rose coloured spectacles'. However, their own jadedness colours their vision. It seems like anyone who drifts away from Darren gets lumped in with these people. And that's a shame/

It's not a perfect fandom. There is bitchiness and nastiness. I've been on the end of it on occasion. It's nasty. But there's a wonderful part of it too. You can do well in this fandom if you try not to worry about what other people think of you and just enjoy your experience.

There's too much judging in this fandom. No one should have to justify their decisions.




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hey ... people against fanclub not against Darren himself ^__^

sure years go by we all changing and love to Darren to his music gone away. it's ok. but personally i'm not tired to be his 'fan' (i don't like this words) cause he's a man who help me alot with his lyric/music/words and opinion
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I know people are against the fanclub, but those aren't the ones I'm talking about. I can understand people having a problem with the way that the fanclub is run (I don't get why that should be used as a stick to beat Darren with, but that's another argument). There are people though, who just seem to have a problem with Darren himself, and anyone who drifts away from Darren's music seems to get lumped in with them. Which is a terrible shame.
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i don't understand why and HOW people may have problem with s singer. he just sing at all. if we don't like what he sing we don't listen him. he's not obliged to us. he just sing. fan club ruled by other people and ruled not good so i'm against those people. Darren good lad, yep he is ^__^
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i dont get why people have issuses :huh: issues with the singer / artist as thats what they just are, singers who preform for our benifits... Unless their westlife! :lol: JK, well... :-" (sorry i just hate them thinking that being number one is the most important thing! <_< )

Ok back on topic... I just have a deal with how places dont remember freedom of speech. whether it be a Fan club or forum.
I'm on a forum where u cant even discuss that the groups management / RC arent doing bugger all for their artist (coughs... BsB & SONY) and while others dont understand all you're doing is having a fun banter on something small and insignificant. :rolleyes: Even when stated you're just muching about.

If anyone see's me in some mad group its only because i believe in freedom of speech, on those terms which i've stated above. I dont hate any forums or FC's i'm with, i just wish sometimes they remember people have different opinions...

But i'm all for bashing people if they are being pyscho's as in harrasing people on forums / Fc's and who seriously have a problem with the artist and who hold a grudge. Or for FC's / Forums who do the same to their members.
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erm ... i don't understand half you said, but maybe you right *blushes*
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erm ... i don't understand half you said, but maybe you right *blushes*

LoL dont worry hun, half the time i dont understand what i mean.

basically saying I like the forums / FC's i'm in or apart of etc, i just dont like it when someone is just merly expression an opinion on something which cant do any harm when its been basically just stated as an opinion or just fun and it ends up becoming WW3 But i can understand things have to happen if someone (either fc / forum or member) goes OTT and starts acting crazy like.

Hopefully that made more sence for us both. LoL.


sometimes i do think that i am seriously not right in the head.
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