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Trapped
Topic Started: Apr 1 2008, 09:57 PM (104 Views)
Leviathan	Apr 1 2008, 09:57 PM Post #1
http://abscure.net Posts: 3,361 Group: Member + Member #15 Joined: October 3, 2004	I'm trapped. As you all know... I like this one girl at my school. A LOT. And... she knows I like her... she didn't talk to me for like a month. Well, she talks to me again, and acts like we're good friends again. And I like her just as much again. And I want her. BAD. But the thing is... if I ask her out, and she says "no" (which is likely) then she'll probably never talk to me again. And I like her as a friend. I don't know what to do and it's **ing killing me, I'm **ing depressed.



Involuntary Twitch	Apr 2 2008, 09:47 PM Post #2
Tell me the truth this time, why don't you. Posts: 863 Group: WoS Head Member #668 Joined: June 6, 2006	Well, I have less experience with boys' relationships, buuuut... Dr. Twitchy, in the house. :D It sounds like something's going on in her head right now. The way you said she suddenly starts talking to you again... it leaves me a little suspicious. Best case scenario, she really does like you and wants to be good friends with you. Worst case scenario, she's got something darker planned. It all depends on the girl. Since you like her so very much, I'm thinking you know her very well. Keep in mind that girls are far less predictable than guys, so I may be totally off-track here. But if she's the sensitive type, more calm and keep-to-herself and intelligent, then you can be fairly sure that she's not going to backstab you. But if she's more talkative, well... there's a bit of a risk. Girls are nothing without their friends, and even if she means well, there might be an army of black-hearted feindesses backing her up. It all depends on your own reputation. Also, there's the asking out thing. What exactly do you mean when you say "asking out?" Go out to dinner and a movie (intense for a first date, btw... try something lower-key, and with people from both parties present, your friends and her friends)? Or is it different than that-- do you want to be acknowledged by the greater body of your peers as a pair, and spend all of your waking time together? (exaggeration, obviously... but you get the point.) Clearly there's a huge difference. She might be okay with going out occasionally, but she's not ready for a long-term committment. Or maybe she really likes you back, and it's okay with her. So. Act natural, be polite to her, listen to what she has to say. Even if she didn't like you originally, if you show her that you are likeable she will be swayed your way. And work your way up in your relationship-- if you don't make a huge jump, there's less of a fall. Go to small organized activities together, like I said, in groups. Hang out, not explicitly together, and then go less and less casual (but keeping with the fun!) as you both get to like each other more. Make her comfortable around you, and you'll be able to say your feelings without words.



Leviathan	Apr 2 2008, 09:54 PM Post #3
http://abscure.net Posts: 3,361 Group: Member + Member #15 Joined: October 3, 2004	Well we're not in the same group of friends and if I ask her out and she says no she'll never talk to me for a while (that's what happened when I told her I liked her)



Involuntary Twitch	Apr 2 2008, 10:43 PM Post #4
Tell me the truth this time, why don't you. Posts: 863 Group: WoS Head Member #668 Joined: June 6, 2006	So don't ask her out. o_O You're friends with her right now, yes? Well, just hang out more and more often and get closer and closer. Like I said, if you don't jump, you won't fall. Yes, I know it's painful for you, longing to be close to her and all, but you can't take things so quickly, otherwise they'll all fall apart. Why do people have to "go out" in the first place? Why can't people just be friends, or boyfriend and girlfriend if they like, without the whole annoying concept of "going out" or not? You're intelligent enough to see through this ridiculous ritual. It should be only your best wishes and hers involved, never mind the taboos. First, though, find out her alibi. There must be some link from your group of friends to their group of friends, however distant. Find that one person who can act as a go-between for the groups and, well-- I hate using this word, but-- spy on them and find out. Like I asked: what's she like? How does she fraternize with her friends? Would she be capable of hatching a plot for your downfall? Would she want to hatch a plot for your downfall?


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