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| HellenKeller | Mar 6 2008, 07:11 PM Post #1 |
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Hey Guys, I'm going to open up here a little more than I would like to, but I really need some advice and don't dare go to a "shrink". My fiance has decided that he is not good enough for me and wants to end our 15 year relationship. He gave me a 7 diamond white gold engagement ring for Christmas of 2006 with 7 family heirloom diamonds made into a very antique looking ring. His grandmother said he spent 2 months with her deciding on the design (she works in the jewelery biz). How could he go to all that trouble to just break up with me AGAIN? We started dating when I was 15 so we had many breakups over the years. I asked him why he gave me the ring, he said " I just wanted to make you happy." We are living together and I am drawing unemployment. He has no real reason for this breakup. He said, "It shouldn't be this hard. It just shouldn't be this much work." See, he hasn't been working hard on us, at all. I am the most lieniant girlfriend you could ever have, I only get really pissed at him when it's going on 4 or 5 in the morning and he's not back home yet. He's not sleeping around, because I know the guys he is hanging around and they are NOT chick magnets. Why is he so afraid to grow up? He was working with his dad for 10 years and last summer that went up in the air. Now he sells a truck here and there and makes way more than I could on my own. Any advice? I know this isn't about reptiles, but please only serous replies. My 30yr old heart can't take being made fun of right now. P.S. I have never been with anyone but him, even on a date. Thanks, Hellen |
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| necramericanomicon | Mar 6 2008, 09:45 PM Post #2 |
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sounds like it is going to be emotionally stressful no matter what your decision wish i had learned to consult tarot cards or i ching by now...maybe it would help me to have made better decisions...to be forewarned is to be forearmed but now i am leery of occult type stuff...the world seems to be getting more and more a toy of the dark forces than ever before i don't think i want to know about the future much now just going to try to live to 2012...until then, all bets are off |
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| HellenKeller | Mar 6 2008, 11:08 PM Post #3 |
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I agree! It dawned on me earlier that I have been praying for this, I think. I have been praying to God about this man for a couple of months. I told God - as I now remember - that he was going to have to make this man leave me, because I cannot bring myself to stop loving him. I could not decide if God wanted me with this man or not, because how do we know? I told God that if he was trying to get me to leave my fiance, he would have to work the other way, and I guess he did. My prayers always get answered, and many times I get EXACTLY what I ask for. Painfully so Be careful what you ask for cause you just might get it! And as long as I am in the right hands, I can accept not having any to have and to hold... for now. At least I've still got my Border Collie 4yrs old yesterday, she is my Boochie Poochie, Crunchie Munchie and 12 other stomach turning nicknames! Love her! |
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| manureva1 | Mar 6 2008, 11:30 PM Post #4 |
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Oh Hellen, I am sorry to hear that. Your story is beautiful in a sense that you knew each other for so long. I think that he thinks he can not have more responsabilities but he still loves you. I think he thinks he is not good enough. sometimes men think that way. and being in a relationship since a teen makes it more difficult. you just know each other. the breaks you had don't mean separation, in my mind it means take a break frome ach other. just what I think. I am 30 too and still don't understand why relationships are so complicated! hang in there |
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| Petunia | Mar 6 2008, 11:57 PM Post #5 |
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It sounds to me like he is scared of the responsibility. Maybe your being unemployed made him realize what a big responsibility marriage is. Frankly, he doesn't sound like a very strong person to me, and you may be better off without him. |
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