Europeia is a region of NationStates that follows the principles of republicanism, meaning the officials of Europeia are elected by the people, of the people, and usually for the people.
Can I join?
Of course. Of course. All you have to do is register an account. Validate said account (it should send an email to the email address you have provided, if it did not pester us about it here). Your account in the beginning will automatically be placed in the non-citizen usergroup. You can change that by applying for citizenship. The application, for security purposes, usually takes a few days to be processed by our forum administrators. But once that is done you can see it all and do it all as a full citizen of Europeia .
So, I came here representing another region? I do not want to become a citizen. Where should I go?
First you have to register an account. Then you have to validate said account (it should send an email to the email address you have provided, if it did not pester us about it here). Your account in the beginning will automatically be placed in the Non-Citizen Usergroup. Then you can apply for diplomatic masking.
What offices are there for people to be elected into?
Well, first of all there are three Branches of Government. There is the Executive, the Legislature, and the Judiciary. The Executive is responsible for the day-to-day governance, the Legislative writes and manages the laws of Europeia, and the Judiciary has the Power to review laws to see if they comply with our Constitution as well as hear trials against accused citizens.
The Executive is made up of the President, the Vice President and their Cabinet. The President and the Vice President are elected together every 70 days. They then nominate other citizens to fill the Cabinet Posts. Those nominated are then confirmed by the Senate. For more on the Executive click here.
The Legislative is made up of the Senate and the Citizens' Assembly. The Senate is made up of a minimum of five citizens who are elected into office every 70 days, exactly 35 after the presidential elections. The Senate writes or repeals laws, confirms Ministers and Judges and can remove any elected official. The Citizens' Assembly writes pre-Legislation, which is then passed on to the Senate for approval. Members of the Assembly are not elected. Instead every citizen is automatically a Member. For more on the Legislature click here.
The Judiciary is made up of the High Court, which answers legal questions and hears criminal and civil cases, looking to the laws of the Republic, both statutory and common, to render judgment. It is made up of the Chief Justice and three Associate Justices. The Justices serve for a 120-day term. Instead of being elected, they are nominated by the President and then confirmed by the Senate. For more on the Judiciary click here.
What is there for me to do in Europeia?
If the game of high politics is not your cup of tea you can always just hang around doing fun things. Or if you want to put some work in, there is always the Civil Service, the Navy, and the Citizens' Assembly.
As citizen, you can join the Civil Service (or CSO). The CSO assigns its Members (called Assistant Ministers or AMs) to the different Ministries to help out the Ministers. As AM you can do many things and garner great accolades. Most of the great politicians of Europeia started in the CSO.
Once you become a citizen, you can also sign up to become a Sailor in our Navy, going out on raids, defending Europeia, or helping our allies defend themselves. Or, if reading and creating Law is more your speed, you can always join the Citizens' Assembly.
That answers most of my immediate questions. What if I have any more?
You could always check the Newcomer's Handbook to see if the answer to your question is there. It may even be in the FAQ (or Frequently Asked Questions). If neither answer your question, you can ask our admins here.
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What is Emotional Abuse?
Emotional abuse can occur over a series of incidents, or over a period of time.It functions in a series of repeated incidents - intentional or not - that insults, threatens, isolates, degrades, humiliates, or controls another person. If frequent enough, it can be internalized by the victim, and leaves them feeling fearful, insignificant, unworthy, untrusting, emotionally needy, undeserving, and unloveable. If they did something "bad", they would receive punishment or blame by their abuser.
It can be known to blind side victims, as it comes from someone who the victim truly trusts, or loves. Emotional abuse runs in a vicious cycle of building the victim up and tearing them down. It breaks their self-confidence and in return makes them more reliant on their abuser. Emotional abusers will be ruthless and cruel, to achieve total control. However, not all emotional abusers have the same end goal, but they all use similar methods. It is intended to break the victim, and become subject to their abuser. This process can take a long time, but if it is not stopped or checked, it can leave lasting damage. After extensive and prolonged exposure, the victim will become submissive, no longer acting on their own or pursuing their own interests. They will at this point become dependent on their abuser for their identity and purpose. Ultimately it hinders the victim's ability to respond to circumstances in a way their abuser does or does not want them to. Which leaves them highly dependent, or even depressed.
The victim will often feel as if things are going wrong, and that they are to blame. They feel obligated to fix their "mistakes". The abuser aims to make the victim believe that they deserve the cruelty, and that everything is their fault, and that it will end when the victim does what the abuser demands. Intelligent emotional abusers can be kind and generous, offering nothing but support and love, but they can quickly descend to emotionally abusive tactics and engage in passive aggressive behavioral trends at a whim. If done correctly, the victims will be unable to leave as the loving aspect is more important than the abuse.
Abusers don't always belittle victims, they typically space out their actions to maximize effectiveness. Victims will be faced with an individual who can be loving at one point, and abusive at another. It is the loving aspect that makes victims question if they are being "too sensitive", which an abuser will encourage the thought of. Or the victim will believe that the loving person is worth enduring the abusive one. Ultimately, the disparity is confusing to victims. They are trapped between the thoughts of self-preservation and emotional attachment. The victim believes that they deserve it, that they are worth very little, and that they are lucky to have someone who cares about them like their abuser does.
If a victim attempts to distance themselves from their abuser, the abuser will become more abusive, more aggressive, and far more emotionally damaging. Independence is unacceptable to an abuser, and they will not stop at any cost to maintain control. The abuser may even stalk the victim, in an effort to reach and control their victim once again.
Stopping emotional abuse can be a difficult process. And trying to repair the damage that the abuser has left behind, will take a lot of effort and time. However, there are ways that it can be identified, and stopped quicker. Down below are bulleted points that will demonstrate what is, and what isn't emotional abuse.
Emotionally abusive behavior:
Stating that the abuser is the only one who can accept the victim fully (because of or despite their faults)
Periods of good treatment which are interspersed with periods of tearing down the victim’s confidence.
Telling the victim that they deserve better, and they are sorry for how they are treating the victim (and continue regardless).
Belittling the victim by criticizing everything about them.
Stating that the victim is not trying hard enough to make the abuser happy.
Threatening to break off contact when the victim does not do something the abuser demands.
Deliberately exploiting vulnerabilities they know exist with the victim, such as low self-confidence, a history of abuse of the victim, current troubles in life, existing guilt, or self-consciousness.
Abandoning the victim until the victim comes to them out of desperation or guilt and gives the abuser what they want.
A history of patronizing, condescending, or controlling remarks that make the victim believe that they are not worthy of love or respect.
Attempts to isolate the victim from others, either by trapping the victim in that cycle and disabling their ability to speak up, or by convincing others that there is something wrong with the victim.
Telling the victim that the abuser will change for them, if they will do what the abuser wants.
Encouraging the victim to believe that they are not good enough.
If the victim is happy and they are not responsible for that happiness, deliberately saying cruel things that will make them unhappy.
Convincing the people around the victim that the victim is the problem, and the abuser is the actual victim.
Telling the victim that they will take care of them, but that nobody else would.
Allows the victim to believe that the abuser does not think what the victim finds important means anything.
The abuser expects to be forgiven for their mistakes no matter what is said or done, and becomes aggressive verbally if that does not happen. They will state that they have the “right” to be forgiven, and deserve forgiveness and love.
The abuser says that they feel bad because the victim did something to set the abuser off.
Insisting that the victim is spending too much time with others and is neglecting the abuser, potentially saying that means the victim doesn’t care about them.
Making the victim feel like having friends is the victim’s fault, and that the victim’s successes make the abuser feel insecure and hurt.
Deliberately being hurtful so that the victim becomes angry or upset, which allows the abuser to start an argument. This applies as abuse only when the abuser uses the victim’s reaction against them, to make them feel that everything is their fault and they had no right to react the way they did.
Deliberately attempts to make the victim cry or feel depressed.
If the victim states that they feel hurt, the abuser will cite a past incident where the victim hurt the abuser.
If the victim tries to distance from the abuser, the abuser will accuse them of being mean and cold and abandoning them.
If the victim and the abuser have a sexual relationship, that relationship can be used as a means of control, such as taking it away for “bad” behavior or giving it back as a reward for “good” behavior.
Making the victim degrade or debase themselves for the abuser’s satisfaction and to keep them in a low place devoid of self-confidence.
Encouragement of self-injury of the victim as a means to please the abuser. This also includes asking the victim to allow the abuser to harm them in exchange for the abuser not harming himself/herself.
Threats of self-harm/suicide if the victim does not do exactly what the abuser wants.
Harming oneself deliberately in front of the victim in order to win their sympathy and to establish a means of control/make the victim feel responsible for the abuser’s welfare.
If the abuser has a history of abuse in their own background or a history of mental illness, the abuser may attempt to use either of these to excuse their abusive behavior.
Not emotionally abusive behavior:
Dismissing your concerns and proceeding with their own does not always constitute abuse if this is a consistent pattern.
Verbal abuse is *not* emotional abuse. It can be a tactic employed by emotional abusers, but a verbally abusive person may not be an emotional abuser. Remember that emotional abusers say these things to deliberately hurt the victim in that cycle of building up and tearing down.
IC rudeness. IC has nothing to do with OOC emotional abuse.
OOC rudeness. Some people are just not very nice, and not every unkind person is emotionally abusive. An emotionally abusive relationship is predatory, not consisting of unkindness.
Arguments do not mean one party is emotionally abusive. Arguments are a natural part of a relationship.
Emotional abuse is not someone insulting you. Emotional abuse is part of a relationship cycle, not someone who is frustrated or annoyed with you and decides to be offensive.
Trolling and baiting. Neither of these constitute emotional abuse.
Personal attacks are not always emotional abuse, either. It is very possible to simply be aggressive and thoughtless in your words and to use personal circumstances against another individual.
Deliberately baiting for a fight. Some people just want to fight or to bait someone to say something that can be used against them later; they might not necessarily have intentions beyond that.
Bullying is also not a symptom of emotional abuse. It can be a symptom of harassment, but harassment is not precisely the same thing as abuse.
Using sexual favors is also not always a sign of emotional abuse. It can simply be a reward system for someone doing something for someone else.
Talking about wanting to self-harm/commit suicide. This is not always emotional abuse. The person in question can be genuinely troubled with either problem and needs someone to confide in.
Actually self-harming. Though it can be used as a tactic, it is also not a guarantee that this is intended to specifically manipulate a certain individual or individuals.
Thanks to Xoriet for allowing us to reference her piece when making this
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The Order of the Sapphire Star shall be issued by the Vice President to citizens who excel in service to Cabinet Ministers during each Presidential term. The Ribbon of Duty is given for participation in an operation.
The Ribbon of Sustainability is given to the new sailors that join the Active Duty or Volunteer Reserve and show activity in an operation.
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This is clearly one of the moments where I can really see the flame in the medal making sense. Passion, that's one thing we like to see here. Cat displayed that extremely well during her time in Culture. Joining the whole team rather late, she immediately took responsibility in Weekend Games and also worked on two new ideas. When I thought about the medalists at the start of EurOlympics, I did not even think she would make the list, but she was extremely diligent in the last two weeks. That medal is very well deserved.
Foreign Affairs
"Cat came in during the second half of the term and has really done well in her roles helping both Isaris and Klat." With that, I award Cat bronze.
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The Best Assistant Minister Award goes to Cat! We thanks for her contributions to helping out in the ministries in Europeia in 2016 and she deserve this award.
The Break-Out Europeian Award goes to Cat! We thanks for contributions to spontaneously giving us new ideas and rising in Europeia in 2016 and she deserve this award.
The Worst Thread Award goes to "You wanna suck?"! We thanks for this thread horrifying us in Europeia in 2016 and it deserve this award.
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The Two Truths and a Lie winner award goes to Cat for winning this week’s Trivia game by a huge margin!
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Very good writeup here, you succinctly put together a beautiful guide to recognizing emotionally abusive behavior and tactics. I look forward to future lectures
This is a very good read, at one point in my life I was guilty of a few of these. Seeing them written definitely helps you recognize your faults and helps you to get the help you need to change your behavior and become a better person.
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This is a very good read, at one point in my life I was guilty of a few of these. Seeing them written definitely helps you recognize your faults and helps you to get the help you need to change your behavior and become a better person.
We all have been guilty of some unethical behavior in one way or another - we're all human. The good thing to do is acknowledge our faults and try to work to better ourselves and others.
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About Me (RL) Stay-at-Home Dad Speak Russian, French PC Gamer (Grand Strategy/Paradox/Total War) Favorite Book Genres: Sci-Fi, History, Philosophy of Mind
This is a great guide, Cat! I think so the conversations around these topics are important because we don't always know what the lines are or why something feels wrong or doesn't. You don't learn this stuff in like school or on TV or anything so its like learning what is and isn't ethical.
This is a great read and great resource for the region and beyond.
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Senator (x3) Speaker (x1) Deputy Speaker (x1) Minister of Communications (x1) Minister of Interior (x1) Deputy Minister of Interior (x5) Citizens Assembly Chair (x3) Deputy Chair of Citizens Assembly (x2) Law Clerk Deputy Director of ECP (x2) Founder of EPP EPP Party Chairman (X1) EPP Party President (x1) ACE Vice-Chair (x1) Press Secretary of ACE (x1) Senate Aide to Malashaan
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Balder
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Equalism
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Thank you for this, Cat.. *hugs*
Positions in Europeia
Former Positions
Ministry of Culture Deputy of Weekend Games (for quite a few terms)
Current Positions
Ministry of the Interior Deputy Minister for Gameside Regional Connectivity Ministry of Culture Deputy Minister of Weekend Games Ministry of Radio Assistant Minister Unofficial Birthday Tsarina <3
Shinies and Awards Received
The Order of the Sapphire Star is a Vice-Presidential medal to be awarded to Assistant Ministers for excellence in their service to their ministries. (x2) 2017 Europeian of the Year Most Welcoming 2017 Workhorse Award 2017 The Order of Enlightenment shall be issued to citizens who provide outstanding cultural work including projects and creations that aid in the cultural development of the Republic.
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Motivational Messages (For those days when you just feel meh. ;w;)
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Outside of Europeia, I am..
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